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=A0 </SPAN=3EThis used to be the time when your children were ceremoniously =
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0pt'=3EThe 21<SUP=3Est</SUP=3E birthday party is probably the closest thing =
we have, in western society, to a Bar Mitzvah or initiation ceremony, althou=
gh it=92s probably about 7 years too late=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes=
'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIn many ways 14 years is a much more realistic age for indu=
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 invite and organized the food=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </S=
PAN=3EHis brothers chipped in with lights and PA to help with the big night=2E=
<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EOur youngest daughter start=
ed making up a picture board of family photos=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun:=
 yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThere were the cuddly shots of the new baby boy in the =
hospital, then the cute four year old hugging the kangaroo, the mandatory fi=
rst-day-of-school photo, standing proudly next to his older brother=2E<SPAN =
style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EFirst time on the ski slopes with=
 dad, at six years of age and playing music with people in South Africa=2E A=
s well as the usual fooling around shots that fill family albums the world o=
ver=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=
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ze: 12=2E0pt'=3EAs a father, looking back, I can see the evidence that I hav=
e been influential in my child=92s life from a very early age=2E<SPAN style=3D=
'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIt=92s sort of rewarding and humbling at =
the same time=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ELike many f=
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r=3D0=3Eprobably worked long hours when the children were young=2E<SPAN styl=
e=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI=92m thankful that this was rectifie=
d as time progressed=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ELook=
ing at 21 years of my son=92s photos made me realize that =91we are what we =
become=92=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ELife is a decis=
ion=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThousands of small de=
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d experiences with families and friends provide the impetus for many of thes=
e decisions=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EFathers have =
a key role to play in providing the framework and value base for these decis=
ions=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EDo not underestimate=
 the influence you have on your children=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=
=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EOne way or another, it will be enormous=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</S=
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ize: 12=2E0pt'=3ESo here I was standing at the party, listening to my son=92=
s friends give speeches about the time he placed a masticated Mars Bar on th=
e teachers toilet seat at the school camp=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes=
'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EOr the <IMG hspace=3D4 src=3D'http://www=2Ebosweb=2Ecom=2Ea=
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t vspace=3D4 border=3D0=3Etime the gunpowder accidentally exploded and burnt=
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o-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EMy turn came to speak, and my speech lasted =
about 1 =BD minutes which is unusual for me=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: y=
es'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI knew that my son didn=92t like long speeches=2E<SPAN st=
yle=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EAnd what did I say=3F<SPAN style=3D=
'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ESimply this, that as a father, I was prou=
d of my son=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EWhat more cou=
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out your family photo=92s this week and enjoy the experience of looking back=
=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EConsider the major role =
that you as a father have played in your children=92s lives=2E<SPAN style=3D=
'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ELook for recurring themes and laugh at yo=
ur mistakes, as your children laugh with you=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: =
yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3ERemember =91life is a decision=92 and =91we are what we =
become=92=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EMost importantl=
y, tell your children you are proud of them=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: y=
es'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EAfter all, if you don=92t, who will=3F<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SP=
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ze: 12=2E0pt'=3EYours for More Proud Fathers<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=
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ize: 12=2E0pt'=3EIt seems just like yesterday that I wrote an article about =
my 13 year-old finding a delivery job, and how I believed it essential to te=
ach our kids a good work ethic=2E Well, let it be said=85I tried! Guess who =
doesn=92t deliver pamphlets anymore, and guess who does=3F Yep, James doesn=92=
t, and Mum does=2E The concept was ideal=2E James gets a job that will provi=
de two essential elements for a 13 year old; money and fitness=2E I think th=
at=92s where the first error occurred=2E You see, 13-year-old boys these day=
s don=92t appear to be as energetic as we were as kids (back in my days), wi=
th fitness almost a dirty word=2E Perhaps <IMG hspace=3D4 src=3D'http://www=2E=
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jpg' align=3Dright vspace=3D4 border=3D0=3Ethe onset of computers has made c=
omputer games more appealing than riding a pushbike, exploring the creeks, o=
r just generally being outside=2E I remember as a 13 year old, we would all =
meet down the creek and build dams, catch yabbies, get dirty=85all the good =
stuff=2E Or we used to ride our bikes to the council depot where we had made=
 some jumps; or meet at the local paddock for a game of footy=2E Mum would g=
ive us a dollar or two for a bag of hot chips afterwards=85it was great fun=2E=
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: Verdana; mso-bidi-font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EThe second element that was a fla=
w in our work plan was the money provision=2E Now, I can=92t blame James for=
 this one, I am sure many boys would do the same=2E If, for as long as you c=
ould remember, Mum and Dad supplied the cash whenever needed, then why would=
 you spend 4 hours a week exercising and delivering pamphlets for $5 an hour=
, when all we had to do was ask Mum or Dad for the money=2E Suppose he=92s c=
leverer than I give him credit for=2E I don=92t know what=92s wrong with kid=
s these days, they all think money grows on trees; and that tree flowers in =
Dad=92s back pocket=2E Now James=92 Dad is an accountant=85apparently good w=
ith money, and a wise steward of his funds=2E Well, having children in the n=
ineties sort of puts a halt to any ability to be frugal, with everything the=
se days costing money=2E I know, I know=85all sounds a little familiar, but =
there is an upside to all this=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMs=
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ize: 12=2E0pt'=3EThe original plan was this; the whole family helped fold th=
e pamphlets, James and Mum deliver Tuesday morning, the whole family deliver=
 Sunday afternoon=2E James received the whole pay check=85with a small porti=
on provided to his sister Chloe for helping (which was great)=2E The new sys=
tem is this; James=92 Mum folds the pamphlets, and delivers the pamphlets, t=
hen on Sunday the whole family delivers=2E Here=92s the good part=85if James=
 and=A0his sister=A0want to help, then they will receive a paycheck=2E Other=
wise, the funds don=92t appear=2E Mum banks the proceeds=85I love it! I don=92=
t know what=92s with kids these days, they all think money grows trees; and =
that tree flowers in Dad=92s back pocket=2E <o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=
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font-size: 12=2E0pt'=3EI believe this whole new system will benefit all invo=
lved=2E=A0Mum gets her daily exercise, and paid for! James and=A0his sister=A0=
learn that with work come rewards ($)=2E And we as a whole family get to spe=
nd time together on a Sunday afternoon, and exercise as well=2E Yep, I like =
this plan better=85good thinking James=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P cl=
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ctive surfer who lives on the Sunshine Coast=A0in Queensland=2E He is a fami=
ly man who hasn't lost his sense of humour=2E</P=3E</SPAN=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div=
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ONT size=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EI am not a grandfather, but within the=
 next decade there is a very good chance I will be=2E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPA=
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t been a good dad all the time=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </S=
PAN=3EIt is as if I have been serving an apprenticeship and being prepared f=
or the next stage in fathering, becoming a new Grandfather=2E</FONT=3E</FONT=
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onfident as a dad with previous experience, when new lives become part of ou=
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-ansi-language: EN-AU'=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EOur family =
experience involved three biological children and two overseas adopted child=
ren=2E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'mso-ansi-langua=
ge: EN-AU'=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3ELet me say that the ado=
ption procedures were much more difficult than the biological procedures=2E<=
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 the broad responsibilities, the weight thrust upon my shoulders=2E</FONT=3E=
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als or airports, the first to greet the new baby after me, was the grandpare=
nts=2E They made extraordinary efforts to be with us and support us=2E One t=
hing that strikes me regularly is the voice tone in grandparents when they h=
old the new additions! Nothing else in the world can cause this significant =
voice change=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMs=
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n the counsel of the wisdom of many=2E This is a biblical principle, which m=
eans listen to advice of those who have travelled the path before you=2E<o:p=
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become a new Grandfather I need to learn about it=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-space=
run: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EIt is not hard to find a grandfather and begin the =
easy process of listening to their experiences=2E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E=
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andchildren=2E This may not be true in all cases but is generally the case=2E=
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hildren=2E G</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E<SPAN lang=3DEN-AU style=3D'mso-ansi-=
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it a broader responsibility as they take the new grandchildren under their w=
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 new grandad who was elated over the new addition to his family and said, =93=
I will probably do things differently, because I've come to realise what's i=
mportant in families=94=2E<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</P=3E<P=
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aid on becoming a grandfather, =93As for being a grandfather, well that=92s =
something else again=2E With Charles and Harriet, I worried about being able=
 to provide for them financially, about having the right books on childcare,=
 about being able to change nappies=2E But with being a grandfather the resp=
onsibility is no longer yours=2E It=92s all pride and joy - with the occasio=
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uage: EN-AU'=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3EIf your children are =
getting nearer to the season of contributing to the world=92s population, co=
nsider preparing yourself to be a new grandfather=2E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=
=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<SPAN lang=3DE=
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=3EThe other replied, 'You know, the ones that hang out at that place at the=
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ist and they're sort of bald on top with a funny ring of hair on their heads=
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NT color=3Dmediumblue=3E<STRONG=3ELIFE IS FUN</STRONG=3E</FONT=3E</SPAN=3E</=
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y: 'Times New Roman'; mso-fareast-language: EN-US; mso-bidi-language: AR-SA'=
=3EHave you heard the joke about the butter, </P=3E<P=3EI better not tell yo=
u, you might spread it=2E<BR=3E</P=3E</SPAN=3E<br=3E<br=3E<div align=3Dright=
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=3E<BR=3EPlan some time out for yourself - things you enjoy doing, with frie=
nds or alone=2E It maybe off to the sports arena, or the movies, or just a s=
imple lunch at the Fish Markets=2E Try inviting some friends over if you can=
 cook, or invite yourself over to some friends=2E It doesn't have to be expe=
nsive to have fun=2E Cook yourself breakfast in bed, or have a video day=2E<=
BR=3E<BR=3EPlan some challenging activities - with and without the kids - to=
 stretch your boundaries=2E Take up a hobby or craft that you can do, but is=
 new, or stretching an old one=2E<BR=3E<BR=3ESet up a dream list or just thi=
ngs to try with the kids- then work through them=2E Some options are in free=
 magazines such as Sydney's Child or the school or church bulletin=2E Sports=
, adventure playgrounds, rebuilding cars, horse riding, picnics, puppet play=
s, bowling, swimming=2E Explore the mountains or the sea - be creative with =
time and money that may be limited=2E<BR=3E<BR=3EJoin a group - or start one=
=2E The local church, singles groups, or friends with common interests are g=
ood starting points=2E<BR=3E<BR=3EWhen you can't cope - or just want some co=
ntact - pick up the phone even when you don't want to, or think no one cares=
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=3EPeters' article last week, A Tale of 3 Cities was frank and honest=2E</SP=
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<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EAustralian swimming has long been one o=
f our most consistant sporting successes=2E Today it=92s names like Hackett,=
 Thorpe, and Elka Graham that grab the headlines, but over the years we have=
 had many, many, champions=2E <I=3ESwimming Upstream</I=3E is the true story=
 of one such swimming champion from the late =9150s and early =9160s, Anthon=
y (Tony) Fingleton=2E With a significant input from Tony himself, and his on=
ly sister, Diane, this is a heartwarming tale that tends to fall somewhat in=
to soap opera territory, but is worth a look nonetheless=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=
=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThe Fingletons were not unlike many other=
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 typical working man, but seems to have little time for much of the world, a=
nd is not one to make friends easily=2E His own troubled upbringing is the s=
ource of most of his problems including alcoholism, and his inability to rel=
ate to people, his wife, Dora (Judy Davis), and five children included=2E On=
 the surface, everything seems quite normal, but scratch just below the surf=
ace and you=92ll find a family that has its share of demons=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E=
<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThe four boys, Harold Jnr=2E (David Hof=
lin), John (Tim Draxl), Tony (Jesse Spencer), Ron (Craig Horner), and Diane =
(Brittnay Byrnes), love their father and are desperate to win his love and a=
pproval, but few, if any of the children, actually win any=2E Harold is part=
icularly harsh on Tony, even when he learns that both he and John are strong=
 swimmers=2E He ridicules Tony, pushes him away physically and emotionally, =
and derides him for his softer side that would rather play piano and read Sh=
akespeare than box or play football=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerda=
na size=3D2=3EAs Tony and John continue to excel at swimming, Harold favours=
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John over Tony at every opportunity and expresses his emotions only at John=92=
s success=2E The fact that Tony is as good a swimmer as John, if not better,=
 is not merely ignored, but openly dismissed, and seems to infuriate Harold =
all the more=2E Harold abandons Tony in favour of John, thereby separating T=
ony from his greatest ally, a rift that would never be truly resolved=2E</FO=
NT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ESpurred on by his mother=92s=
 love and support and the need to gain his father=92s approval, Tony decides=
 to manage his own swimming affairs and train himself in an attempt to make =
the Australian Swimming team=2E Although success would be his, it is interes=
ting to ponder just how good he might have been in the hands of a profession=
al coach=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<DIV align=3Dcenter=3E<TABLE style=3D'WIDTH: 80%; =
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</I=3E</B=3E<SPAN style=3D'COLOR: black; FONT-FAMILY: ' mso-bidi-font-family=
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FONT size=3D2=3E<I=3ESwimming Upstream</I=3E was written by Tony Fingleton a=
nd his sister Diane, (herself the subject of some recent and unwanted public=
ity as a Chief Magistrate) and their input into the film stretches to execut=
ive production=2E We can assume then, that even if some elements have been d=
ramatised, this is mostly an accurate account of the Fingleton story=2E Eith=
er way, watching it is emotionally draining, and tougher still I am sure, fo=
r anyone with a similar experience=2E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P=3E<FONT face=
=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EWatching a father dismiss his child and openly wish th=
e child had never been born is tough, tougher still for that poor child=2E I=
t is hard to understand even when that child is a deadbeat and a loser, but =
when the child is not only loving but also gifted, the abuse is criminal=2E =
Any abuse of children is intolerable, but watching those same children busti=
ng themselves to win approval from that parent is heartbreaking=2E The only =
thing not truly explained, is why Harold had so little time and love for Ton=
y, but I assume Harold Fingleton himself never knew the answer to that=2E</F=
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n video and DVD=2E It makes you think about how you treat your children=2E</=
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oundation</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E=
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</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FONT face=3DVerd=
ana size=3D2=3E=85The need for children to share a good relationship with a =
mum and dad is crucial to the healthy development of that child through thei=
r infant years to adulthood and beyond=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=
=A0 </SPAN=3EI agree that the strength of the nation is in it=92s families a=
nd that those families are best supported by a mother and a father=2E<SPAN s=
tyle=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EMany children are missing out when=
 either parent is, whether because of work or separation, absent from the fa=
mily unit=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EThose children =
lose the role modeling of that parent and the effect cannot be quantified be=
cause it emerges over time=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MA=
RGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=
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'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThe role of a father as a strong mentor =
in the family unit is crucial and I would support all actions taken to stren=
gthen the family unit=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN:=
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FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3ELiz Cunningham MP</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMs=
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er for Gladstone Qld </FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0c=
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=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F=5F</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal styl=
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<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana si=
ze=3D2=3E1 September 2003</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN=
: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E<=
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<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EDear Fatherhood Foundation</FONT=3E</P=3E<P =
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NT size=3D2=3E=A0<o:p=3E</o:p=3E</FONT=3E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal=
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ize=3D2=3EI feel it necessary to let you know my feelings concerning the iss=
ue of fatherhood=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm =
0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT size=3D2=3E=A0<=
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0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EFathers =
are vitally important to a child=92s welfare and =91wholeness=92 and I belie=
ve the social manipulation that has occurred over the past 50 years, and whi=
ch has effectively brought fatherhood almost to a state of redundancy, will =
reveal a whole raft of social problems for the future=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-s=
pacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3EI feel we are already witnessing some of these =
in our murder, suicide, drug and alcohol abuse statistics=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<=
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<FONT face=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EThe 12 point plan seems to be well thought o=
ut and visually acceptable=2E<SPAN style=3D'mso-spacerun: yes'=3E=A0 </SPAN=3E=
Conciseness is the key to imparting information and for such an all-encompas=
sing subject as fatherhood, you have done well=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DM=
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=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=
=3DVerdana size=3D2=3EYou have my support in all your endeavours and I wish =
you all the best for the future=2E</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D=
'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt; TEXT-ALIGN: justify'=3E<FONT face=3DVerdana=3E<FONT si=
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A</FONT=3E</P=3E<P class=3DMsoNormal style=3D'MARGIN: 0cm 0cm 0pt'=3E<FONT f=
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